Keep it Simple

Each year I donate items to charities or organize a yard sale to simplify my home. Yet somehow, my surroundings don't seem to be less cluttered, and I have stacks of paper I can't bring myself to toss, especially if it's related to my education. If I know they are not necessary for survival, why am I holding onto them?

One of the hardest lessons for a person is learning to let go. Of objects, a loved one, your identity, ego, false notions, an argument, or any idea that is not improving your life. There are different motivations for holding on, and perhaps I can't get rid of the stacks of paper because they symbolize the years and money I spent learning valuable information. Or maybe it will be useful in the next decades so they should follow me wherever I go. But I'm just not ready.

We all have our own methods and pace for coping and dealing with stresses. I find it extremely courageous to admit that one's habit (i.e. smoking) comes from a pathway of self-destruction and a victimized life, to the extent that the possibility of health is beyond reach. In my opinion, this admission is a giant leap, a cry for help, and a moment of honesty. The fear exists that if we put things behind us, we may begin to lose ourselves. The focus remains less about loss and more about moving on, to make room for better chances in our lives, and to become our fullest potential. When patients come to me for addictions, I see in their eyes the readiness to change their lives in a positive way, the desperation in their voice to connect heart and mind, and to relieve the emotional and physical pain they endure. That is why I believe this medicine can work for anyone.

If you want to become whole,

let yourself be partial.

If you want to become straight,

let yourself be crooked.

If you want to become full,

let yourself be empty.

If you want to be reborn,

let yourself die.

If you want to be given everything,

give everything up.

-Tao Te Ching